Monday, October 12, 2026
In my career, I've made a number of observations, one of the most vital being that those with unwanted same-sex attraction are disconnected from understanding the experiences of men who do not have same-sex attraction, the men that clients often call "normal" or "straight". Many men with unwanted same-sex attraction:-played a sport in childhood, but was uncoordinated and inexperienced-was criticized by another kid on the team for being too slow or not very good.... Read More
Wednesday, December 17, 2025
There’s a dirty little secret in the psychology and counseling world, that they don’t want anyone to know. It doesn’t actually work for most people. Counseling today largely consists of teaching coping skills, correcting cognitive distortions, and gaining understanding about the cycles and immediate contributors to their problems, but understanding your problem doesn’t work any more than understanding how a virus replicates in your body cures the virus. ... Read More
Monday, December 15, 2025
In the first hour of my first day, I sat in the ER room holding the hands of a newly-widowed septuagenarian, her dead husband, on the exam table, shirt torn open, pale as an onion.... Read More
Monday, December 15, 2025
Richard sat quiet with tears streaming down his cheeks.“I’ve carried this pain throughout my entire life, and I feel free of it for the first time in my life.”... Read More
Monday, December 15, 2025
“I destroyed your imaginary sphere,” Steve said with a slight air of defiance.... Read More
Monday, December 15, 2025
There's a blind spot in the Trad community which places strong emphasis on adherence to rules, and perpetuation of guilt long after confession and absolution, but little to no acknowledgement of human emotion and little application of active listening and empathy. ... Read More
Friday, December 12, 2025
“I want to stop cheating on my wife.”“I have a porn addiction.”“I think I have an anger problem.”“I have a lot of lustful thoughts.”TLDR: Every compulsive behavior has two parts,...... Read More
Friday, December 05, 2025
Just this week, Tucker Carlson posted what might be the single most important interview the the realm of Change Therapy (what opponents of it call "conversion therapy"). I highly encourage adults to listen (it's definitely not for kids), as it asks and answers a number of questions and challenges the current narrative that such therapies are harmful. To clarify, contrary to popular myth, not a single state of these United States have successfully banned such Change Therapy for adults.... Read More
Monday, December 01, 2025
It typically manifests as a woman saying they have a communication problem, but that's not generally the actual problem. What's really going on is she has a lot of emotions of unresolved stuff that she's not willing to admit to herself or to her husband, so she blames the "communication problem" as if it's the beast of burden third person in the marriage. ... Read More
Wednesday, November 26, 2025
What is a man to do when his wife provokes him to anger. When his wife gets to stay home during the day, then when the man comes home, she abandons him to cook dinner, do the dishes, and take care of the kids? When she secretly records their fights, and provokes the husband to anger, all the while portraying herself as the victim?... Read More
