Bitterness: An Upnayable Debt
Tuesday, August 20, 2024This is where most people get stuck. They blame their younger selves for the pain they suffer today, for having made that unwise decision or done that stupid thing, then they hold a debt over the head of that younger self, a debt that cannot be repaid.
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Every Compulsive Behavior
Friday, July 26, 2024“I want to stop cheating on my wife.” “I have a porn addiction.” “I think I have an anger problem.” “I have a lot of lustful thoughts.”
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Is healing from same-sex attraction even possible?
Wednesday, July 19, 2023Is healing from same-sex attraction even possible? This is a question I get on a weekly basis. As an expert in the field of sexual and identity issues, I work with many men who express a desire to
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Pornography Addiction and Prayer
Wednesday, April 26, 2023Struggling to overcome addiction to pornography is a tremendously difficult task. Many Christians believe they have the upper hand in overcoming pornography because they have prayer, they have God on their side, and yet many Christians struggle with their faith because they don't understand the relationship with God and why he allows them to fall into a pornography addiction.
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Rethinking Accountability
Wednesday, April 26, 2023In Christian circles, accountability groups are a popular tool for working to overcome challenges to purity. Generally, accountability partners meet periodically (daily, weekly) to tell each other the details of their falls. Many men know this routine. The problem is, it's a poor method for success.
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Getting Right Perspective
Monday, April 17, 2023It seems to be universal among those hooked on porn, the belief that the addict is responsible for getting hooked in the first place. Look, I'm not in the business of blaming, and I don't like anyone claiming to be a victim. I'm in the business of helping men quit porn, and that includes telling the truth about things. Men and boys beat themselves up for getting hooked, and place all the culpability on their own shoulders, then carry that shame long past the end of the addiction.
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5 Steps To Quit Porn For Good
Monday, April 10, 2023Porn Addiction Is A Systemic ProblemMany men struggle with pornography addiction. And it's not all their fault.The predatory business model of the porn industry intentionally targets the population at large, even knowingly ensnaring children into the innocence-destroying pay-per-click scheme. The pornography industry has repeatedly beaten back attempts to put age restrictions and paywalls to prevent children from accessing the material because the porn producers admitted such measures would destroy their industry.
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Marriage is a tremendous thing
Thursday, February 09, 2023Marriage is a tremendous thing, a holy sacrament between one man and and one woman where the two become one. Man is the active, woman is receptive. Many couples have...
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